Love can be sacrificed for freedom, but freedom cannot be sacrificed for love.
Love should be an absolute act of freedom.
For a lighter life, for a more playful life, you heed to be flexible. You have to remember that freedom is the highest value and if love is not giving you freedom then it is not love.
Love allows freedom; not only allows, but strengthens freedom…both are essential needs.
It’s as if we are trying to fly in the sky with one wing. A few people have the wing of love and a few people have the wing of freedom, but both are incapable of flying. Both the wings are needed.
If you love there is no need to destroy your freedom. They both can exist together; there is no antagonism between them.
Love the person, but give the person total freedom. Love the person, but from the very beginning make it clear that you are not selling your freedom.
Love is a basic need, as basic as freedom, so both have to be fulfilled. And a person who is full of love and free is the most beautiful phenomenon in the world. And when two persons of such beauty meet, their relationship is not a relationship at all. It is a relating. It is a constant, riverlike flow. It is continuously growing towards greater heights.
If love cannot give freedom, then it is not love. Love as much as you can. Never think of the next moment; and if your lover goes somewhere else, you are also free. Keep freedom as a higher value than love itself. And if it is possible–and it is possible because it is natural–your life will not be a misery. Love each other totally, and occasionally allow each other freedom. But it has to be on both sides. Don’t have any secret, be absolutely open, and allow the other person also to be absolutely open, and respect openness. Never, even by your gestures, make the other person feel guilty.
When you fell in love with the woman, she was free; you fell in love with freedom. When you bring her home you destroy all possibilities of being free, but in that very destruction you are destroying the beauty.
Love means to give all that is beautiful to the beloved. Freedom is the most beautiful, the most cherished goal of human consciousness; how can you take it away? If you love a woman really, or a man, the first present, the first gift, will be the gift of freedom.